As people around the world take time to honor their Mothers today, I realize that today can also be a very painful day. Some women go forgotten by their loved ones. Others have lost their own Mothers in death or faced infertility. For yet others, they never had a Mother that was very loving at all, in fact their own relationship might have been so toxic, it was ripped apart and this day only serves as a reminder of that tumultuous relationship.
I want to address the women that have a heart of a Mother. All that have been a Step-Mother, a foster care Mother, an adoptive Mother, a first time Mother or an experienced Mother, a Mother that has mis-carried or faced the death of a child. Today is dedicated to the women that have a Mother’s heart.
Proverbs 31 has always been viewed as a chapter that describes the perfect woman of God whose standards are too high to attain. I would like to make the argument that the woman described here has the heart of a dedicated Mother and her intentions are always loving. No woman is perfect at everything, but because she tries her best, she is praised in God’s eyes. I believe that God created women to portray His loving nature, the side that comforts, mends wounds, heals and has compassion. This is the heart of the Proverbs 31 woman, she reflects God’s tender side and is always about that business because love is at the center of her intentions.
If you are honored today, enjoy it and be thankful as you are celebrated and loved. If you’re not, don’t be afraid to know that it starts with you. If your own Mother was never loving, be intentional to be loving to your own kids or to her, despite her lack to reciprocate. You do not need to allow a dysfunctional cycle to continue with your own family. Be the Mother that you never had, give the love that you never received. Do this so much so that others would be shocked if you told them that your Mother was never loving or never present. It starts with you.
If you do not have children due to some circumstance that is outside of your control, know that the love in your heart does not go unseen by God. He will bring someone into your life that will need that love, whether through adoption, a new pregnancy or a child that is in need of your Mother’s heart. Through that, God will bring comfort to your own heart. Isaiah 66:13: “As one whom his Mother Comforts, so I will comfort you.” God is aware of your bleeding heart and wants to make sure that you do not replace His place with another person, but will also make sure that you are given exactly what it is that you actually need. So trust in His ways.
If you’re alone due to a prodigal child, keep praying, prayer is powerful, even if it is a battle that takes years of prayer, God will give you strength and grace to keep hoping for a mended relationship. Never let go of your Mother’s heart. Isaiah 49:15: “Can a mother forget her nursing child?” Some strongholds are difficult to break, but with Jesus, they stand no chance! Sometimes, God needs people to go through experiences in order to break them. I can relate to that because I was a prodigal. Once that person is broken from themself, God can come in and mend the pieces again, but often times, it will be after much suffering and pain. Prayer is important because it can mean protection during that time of breaking, so never stop praying and trust in God’s timing.
If you’re a worn down Mother, due to being single, widowed or simply having a busy home life, be encouraged, your family is your ministry. It might be exhausting, but your honor is high with the Lord. You are strong because you carry a heavy load, but yet you do not give up on your family. As busy as you are, many times you might actually crave a day to being idle, but in reality you are always doing something, always cleaning, cooking, washing, organizing, driving, disciplining. The Lord values these attributes because you are productive, not neglecting your family. “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:25-28
Lastly, remember this:
“A gracious woman gets honor…” – Proverbs 11:16
This honor might not even come from people, your kids or your family members, but please know that God will honor you in due time and there is no higher honor than that! God bless you all and I leave you with the Aaronic blessing:
“The Lord bless you, and keep you;
The Lord make His face shine on you, and be gracious to you;
The Lord lift up His countenance on you and give you peace.“