“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”
According to Parents Magazine, “momming was considered a hybrid role that included careers like an academic advisor, art director, senior janitor, staff nurse, and judge. Sounds about right. The combination of roles equals an annual salary of $162,581!” When I transitioned from working full time to being a stay-at-home-Mom, I felt the pinch of the financial side, but what I was not ready for was the lack of support, disorganization and no recognition. When I was working, I had a monthly schedule in my work calendar, I knew what lied ahead for each day, which included meeting clients, lunch, meetings, conferences, workshops, trainings, etc. I liked the recognition I received for my work. It included praise, bonuses, pampering and scheduled days off. I didn’t realize that I was so used to being acknowledged.
When I conducted my home visits with my stay-at-home-Mommas, I used to giggle when they would say that they were “too busy” for a visit. I thought to myself, “you have all the time in the world, what do you mean, too busy?” Ha, ha, ha, I kick myself now and wish I could eat my words up! I am soo busy, I definitely work more being at home, than at work, there are just so many more projects and responsibilities! At home, you do not get a “great job Mom!” At home, you don’t get a bonus for having completely re-structured lost organization of a room and putting things in order, you only live to see it last a short while and quickly destroyed. At home, you don’t EVER get a day off! I apologize to all the Mommas I worked with, you are Super Mommas!!! God bless you each day as you tackle the tasks that never end!
I now have both ends of the spectrum. In my blog, I will go through the various scenarios I have faced on a daily basis. Yes, it is a way to vent the frustration, but I also hope it can be a form that another parent can connect with and relate to. I don’t know if there are any blogs of professionals transitioning to being a stay-at-home-Mom, but I will say from a professional side, that the Moms I visited that struggled the most, were my educated Moms. I now realize why, I feel your pain! I have to laugh. Please do not misunderstand me, I am not saying that educated women struggled, due to being incapable. I am saying that women that have focused on education and a regime, a calendar, a daily schedule, have a more difficult time transitioning into being a stay-at-home-Mother because there isn’t a manual to guide the daily routines, it’s literally spontaneous – all day. One thing I will say…all of my educated Moms (I worked with mainly Ph.D.s from other countries) were awesome for always re-scheduling that same week! They were always faithful because they valued that professional guidance in parenting and never cancelled on me, unless they were sick.
My hope is that all the readers can laugh and cry with my own sweat and tears. I want everyone to know that not only are Mothers important and valuable to a child’s life, but so are Fathers! Our society today demeans Fathers so much, but the research proves that not having a Father/Father figure in the life of a child, later increases behavior that is punishable by law, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, depression, I don’t have to continue because we all know the heart-breaking side effects. Yes, God never intended for us to go outside of His standards and parameters, but we live in a broken world. I’m here to testify that only God can heal those wounds, everything else is topical, not dealing with the root of the issue, just a band-aid remedy. Jesus can literally restore us and heal us. Do not misunderstand and think that He removes consequences, no. In this blog, I’ll explore and discuss Godly wisdom, professional advice and some great tips for Godly parenting. My parenting isn’t perfect, but perfected by the one who is. May the articles here bring you some sense of order, joy and peace. God bless you!